use the exclude functionality instead of the status callback functionality

The current version uses status callbacks, this has a consequence that it is removed from the indexing table. However, if you need to index to multiple environments you can't have it removed form the index table. So therefore we need to add another hook that "skips" the item rather than "sets the status to 0 and remove it"

Since we save relations and not statuses we should use the ex

This issue depends on #1536628: Add exclude hook that allows to skip content without removing it from the table