user menu> my account is enabled and reset but does not show next to log in?
What is a 'reset'? If you mean 'request new password' obviously this does not show when you are logged in because you can change the password (under 'edit' on a standard installation) without requesting a reset link. If you go to the /user page when logged out there should be a tab or link pointing to the 'request new password' page.
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