Show player controls

Hello,

Using FlashNode, I succeed in creating a node with a flv video inside.

Now I would like to add the controls below the video, and disable the autoplay.

SWFTOOLS is installed, several player seems to be available, but I do not manage to change the player used in the node.
I also tried to add flashvars : no effect, the flashvars are html encoded (%20 for the space...).
An the player still autostart and do not show any controls.

Thanks in advance for any help,

Regards,

Arthur