Flag with User Reference in one view

I have a few content types Events and Pictures. I have been using user reference so that the node creator can make user references to those that attended and event or may appear in a picture. I have recently integrated views on the user profile page to show items user referenced to them. However the less know users in my community or and even that has 40+ people I often feel bad that those folks are not included and their profile page absent of good content. I thought the flag module might be a suitable way to "flag if I was there"(this is what I mean but cannot find http://drupal.org/node/200038). But I loose the ability to do this by either my lack of argument relationship knowledge or its a bit of code I will need. So the argument user referenced and then it looks like I would then need relationship but the only wqay i got it working was with a view attachment. But then I get duplicates. I want any pictures that have a user reference by the node creator or have been tagged by the user that wants to say that picture is of them. The view would then show both in a random fashion without duplicates.

Dream feature - when a user flags it there name becomes listed on node(looks like something I can get done). The other thing I could bring up in regard to user reference(please excuse if this is possible and I am not familiar but I wanted to mention in case) is for authenticated users that did not author the node to have that cck field exposed. That way it would add the name to the node in the case of the perfection. So I am not sure which is the better or the easier. This flag mod is a great mod and minus this view I mention it right there.... I hoped that this might present a unique use of the mod.

Thank You for advance and kindly point me to the user ref mod if needed and I will try there.

-Johnny