For all of those having issues "installing" this module.

there are tons of threads on this. And for awhile I was not one of the people having issues. I setup a handfull of sites with the following and not one issue. But then a site running drupal 6.17 would not let me get the jquery_ui up to 1.7 which I needed for http://drupal.org/project/noderelationships
Many things just did not work and the console would output errors like $.widget not defined etc.
Again same layout and jquery 1.6 it was fine just that was not good enough for some of these extra features.

So hours later (even the modalframe examples where not working) the following is working.

The jquery_ui I used
I upload a working version of jquery_ui with 1.7 installed here http://www.rvtc.us/jquery_ui.tar.gz1.7WORKING
I do not think the install was that hard but just incase this might help just not even consider it.
This is the full jquery_ui module so just move modules/jquery_ui out of the way and untar this one in the modules/ folder

Some of the modules and versions
jQuery UI 6.x-1.3
jQuery Update 6.x-1.1
Modal Frame API 6.x-1.7
Drupal 6.17

Status Report Page
jQuery UI 1.7.1
jQuery Update 1.2.6

Settings
The compress type
jQuery compression type:
ACTIVE Packed
Minified
None

This combination go this site to go from almost nothing working to working. I have one more thing to test on the live site and then I will know if it is perfect or not.

alright now I can get some paid work done.