Users not being added to any groups

unfortunately organic groups provides critical functionality we need for our project so hopefully someone can help us out.

No matter what users are not added into any groups created.

Im using a full administrator account with full add user/accept user permissions in og

When i go to the group node and add a member select a member, drupal says so and so was added to the group what ever, but the user is not shown in the member list nor do they have any access privileges?

We have a pretty unique setup to provide functionality we need,

we are using

drupal 7
og 7-1.4
ubercart
ubercart node checkout
access control kit
content control
taxonomy access

we are basically building a membership site that will allow organisation to pay for a membership role which will entitle them to create an og group (which is done through uc node checkout) the group is created fine. then on the flip side the members of these organisations can come to the site pay to become a member, and then they can select the organisation(group) there a member of to join that group. members of these organisations and the organisations themselves all have different access levels and acces to different content hence the acl modules.

As said basically no matter weather im adding them from the backend or trying to join groups through registrations they are not joining the groups as intended, maybe its friday and im missing something but any help would be appreciated