views relationship exists and drop down for exposed filter

Actually seems to me that the filters are only useable from an admin point of view, I cannot get the filters to work based on a user to user condition i.e. if relationship exists between current user and that user, seems there's no relation at all - is all users who have a relationship to any user. Think it needs to be "users who have a relationship to current user" or the filters cannot be used in a user environment, instead only an admin or moderation environment. It may be possible and I haven't figured it out yet.

Have spent few more hours and found many posts. Have done a few things with Views Custom Fields and managed to print a field if relationship is approved between 2 users however it also prints empty rows for relationships that exist and have nothing to do with current user. I also tried working on some custom php on template file but it's not hooked up.

The problem is that the current filters load relationships regardless of WHO is viewing them i.e. administrative interface not user based interface. I think Relationship exists is correct name with option ..

(checkbox)
With current user []

This ought to filter relationships that do not include the current user. In fact it doesn't even need a checkbox because there's only 1 option I can think of - only needs description.

Managed to get filters working after reading this http://drupal.org/node/601734#comment-2149066 - seems like a long way round and I must enable Distinct because I only want one instance for each user in my contacts view table.

Here's pic which might help some. I still think UR exists between current user and users uid is useful as it will cut several corners for certain types of view.