Beginner who needs help... how do I get this set up?

First of all, let me say that this is probably my favorite module on drupal, I am really excited to put it to good use. I am looking for a good way to allow users to Private message each other (similar to Facebook), and Instant message their friends when they are online.

I am getting fairly decent at getting my modules to work... but I have to be honest, this one is giving me a run for me money.

I guess the biggest thing for me is figuring out how to actually set up the XMPP server, etc. Do I need an XMPP server, or is the API just that?

On the XMPP API Settings screen, it lists a few fields for me as follows:

XMPP Server - which is lists an IP address already for me - is this ok, or do I need to put something different here?
XMPP Port - again, is this port that it designates, the default port, meaning that I should not change it?
Admin JID - Do I create whatever name I want here?
Admin JID Password - Same for the password?
Admin JID Server - Is this different than the XMPP server? If so, what should I put here?

The XMPPClient configuration settings screen said the page was "not found", perhaps because I have not finished the API screen?

The same is true for the XMPP Node MUC config screen - not found -

The XMLRPC Settings gives me the following options:

XMLRPC Url - using the same IP as the XMPP server - Is this correct, or do I change this as well?
XMLRPC Port - with a double digit number present - I assume this is default and correct
XMLRPC Query String - Not the slightest idea what I should place in this box.

I apologize if I did not form this question well. This is my second post on Drupal, so if I can post better then next time, please kindly give me some guidelines for effective posting. I appreciate your Module, and I appreciate your help.